7 ways to deal with a distant and cold spouse.
By Haleh Banani, M.A.
Haleh Banani holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. A faith-based counselor, life coach, and mental health professional who has served the community since 1998 by saving hundreds of marriages and helping thousands of people around the world overcome their challenges and become the most amazing version of themselves.
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My hubby has plenty of space, he work till 5pm thereafter he starts gaming then watches you tube videos till 10pm and then I’m asleep all my efforts for 9 yrs have been brushed away, so I can’t do it to please Allah,sorry as it will be a lie & I do not lie or fake feelings but I’ll be civil
9 yrs…I give him the same treatment. Why must my heart hurt only we can’t start couples therapy until we start our own therapy,separately.
Aliykumsem hocam
Madam. You. Not. Understand. My. First. Thing. Speak. My. Wife. Before. Marage. Please. Madam. Don’t. Ask. Again. Please. Please. Again. Ask. You. And. Me. Angry. Ok
This. OK. I. Wont..speak. my. Wife. Why. You. Don’t. Give. This. How. Many. Month. Now. I. Never.. She. Bring. To. Here. Only. Speak. Not. Sleep. You. Don’t. Understanding.. My. Tell. I’m. Not. Mareed. This. Woman. You. Not. Try. To. Me. Again
I’m. Out. Don’t. Ask. Any. Thing
Madam. Please. You. Give.. Very. Big. Problem. Stop. This. I’m. Not. Marage. Don’t ask. Again. Me. Please. Stop. Stop. One. More. Come. Angry. You. And. Me. Please. Stop
Âliykumselâmcokdöğru
My. Wife. Bring. To. Me. Speak. Why. Your. Not. Give. To. Speak. She. Not. Come. I’m. Not. Mareed. Stop. This
Good morning. I. Don’t. No. Not. Understand. Your. Sistteom. Very. Change. I. Can’t. Do. I. Forget. This. I’m. Not. Come. Please. Not. Angry. With. Me. Very. Sorry
Selamunaliykum
We’re. My. Wife. Who. Is. Come
Who. Is. Come. I. Never. Sea. Any. One
Madam. My. Feeling. Not. Like. Other. People. I. Don’t. Won’t. Like. Other. People. You. No. Madam. You. Hand. Have. Five. Finger. The. All. Not. Same. I. No. My. Wife. My. Child. My. Mother. My. Father. I. Love. This. All. But. I. Don’t. Won’t. To. Look. Other. People. The. Only. My. Hard. Why. I. Won’t. To. Show. Other. People. Madam. I’m. Not. Animal. I. No. How. To. Live. Good. Way. Bad. Way. I. Have. Very. Good. Hard. I. Love. World. People. Madam. Allah. Pest. You
Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Rizuan mimpi misteri Ridzwan cuti istinjak guna tisu antena since i am going working i don’t understand what you say nabi Muhammad Alaihi Salam semua MP3 juice
I. Say. You. More. Then. Hundred. Time. I’m. Happy. All. Time. Please. Stop. Don’t. Won’t. Marred.
I’m. Not. Come. I. Come. With. Out. Marred. I. Don’t. Like. Your. Rules..
Please. Madam. I. Don’t. Won’t. Marred. Your. Have. Big. Problem. Me. I. Don’t. Like. Your. Like. I. Come. WTF. Out. Marred. Please. Stop. This. I. Don’t. Like. Your. Not. Stop. This. I’m. Not. Come. I. Go. Next. Gruop
Madam. You. Ask. Seven. I. Tell. You. Only. One. Now. I. Have. Not. Problem. I. Like. This. My. Last. Word. Don’t. Ask. Any. Thing. OK. Madam. But. Before. All. Problem. Your. Council. Problem. Not. My. There. My.mantal…brokan. now. Is. All. OK. Don’t. Ask. Again
Wa alaykhum salam sister, very good sermon but after getting empowered about Narcissist abuse, over the years, I’m afraid this sermon doesn’t resonate with Narcissist, when we talk about Narcissism. Thank you.
الله أكبر. ☻
Madam. Sri. Lanka. Is. Paradise. Very. Good. Country. I. Think. World. Best. People. Here. I’m. Not. Live. Jungle. I. Have. Good. Meners. .my. job. Tourisam. I. Like. People. I. Love. People.
How often do you think you need counseling when you have these problems that you’re talking about and you are separated he lives one place and you’re living another place tonight he went to the movies I talk to him he said he was going 00 you should’ve mentioned something I would like to go on with you but he didn’t say nothing and I said of that’s OK if I we have a date I don’t wanna fight over it he needs to get his do you wanna call it I know I’ve been shooting him for 40 years I’ve never ever cheated on my husband I’ve always been a good wife I work with him he’s a doctor family practice I met him before he became a doctor he didn’t become a doctor to lose 40 years old and I should be signed him and work with him as his nurse receptionist cleaning lady whatever it took plus took care of our two children plus then I had cancer two times in the last 15 years and they kind of changed me a little bit but I’m getting back into the swing of things I feel I’ve lost a lot of weight my body is gotten better looking I look good in clothes I’m thinking about myself right now because I do have to gain some weight back when we separated I was 130 now I’m 94 I’m eating but I’m not gaining and he’s been really good around he’s been helping me at all because in January I had an accident but I don’t think he still wants to come back yet keeping him away I don’t know what it is maybe‘s afraid to come home I don’t know but we’re supposed to go back to family Counseling this month I need to call and make an appointment but I don’t feel an hour a week is going to help us I think we need more time together to show each other that much we do care for each other and love each other if I feel I love him still even though he’s did some things that were not right it hurt my heart very much after all these years being with him and going and doing what I was supposed to do as a wife but I’m willing to try I’m 73 now Vince with him for 40 years we have two children boy and a girl 36 and 39 what are your feelings about this I sent him your tapes but he I said you should your experience in this field and you want to keep marriages together
Thank You So Much.. Great Help
Ma sya Allah tabarakallah, very good points. Jazakallahukhairan sister
ALHAMDULlLLAH
MashaAllah for a beautiful name Halima. It’s a very common name in my country.
You’re not feeding him.
All the points are valid and I would practice them definitely but I know many women who’s husbands started being cold to them when they had their babies , which is the hardest time in a woman’s life ( also hard for men but more so for women physically and psychologically) so they don’t have the energy and ability to manage their spouses and the marriage breaks, which is so relatable and understandable for women.
masha allah
ASC sister
Great and useful points. Jzk sister May god bless you
Sometimes when you give space and respect, that becomes the norm and you end up like two strangers in one home.
Afshan Hussain that’s so true.
Yup,that’s so true..
Jazakhallah khair sis amazing content May Allah reward u
Cyma Tahir
Masha Allah beautiful advice God bless you
Hi
Well. Sometimes just feel like in your own! It does feel good not to talk
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Thank you for your advice dear sister may Allah bless you reward you
Our Salaam to you sister I hope your mom is doing ok she is my dua you all
Yassmina Ahmed Aly
Thank you for the great advice.
Jazakh Allah for good advice.
MashaAllah do u discuss one on one
Shukran sister love your advice and your videos appreciate all the help you give everyone Masalama from love these videos keep up the good work alhamdulilah
Subhaanallah. May you be blessed abundantly Sister Haleh
https://youtu.be/M0PCiM-s0bM
Beautiful advise thank you
Masha Allah, I love this sister I have benefited a lot from her advice even though my marriage has ended
SubhannaAllah. Thank you!
Mehwish Javid
This came timely
Alhamdoelliallah
هل انتم في تكساس؟ ،انا جيت من المغرب وابحث عن عمل
Omg You came after I talked to a divorce lawyer. Lol
Alhumdilah MashAllah sound advice jazaki Allah Kheiroun
Sajida Javaid
What a great reminder. Alhamdulilah!!
It is the RIGHT thing to do!
Assalaamu’alaykum from Oregon.
Thanks allot for your great job.
Rohaya Musa Azila Mahmood ilmu2
Please can you kindly upload the session after it is complete. It’s very hard with little kids to attend live. Jazaakallah khairan
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Shahla Shariff Assalaam Alaikum. How are you?
Hey!! Lovely to hear from you. Yes we are doing great alhamdulillah. Kids growing up fast alhamdulillah. Does haleh post all her live sessions ? Where can I find a kind of a library of her videos? Wud it be in her facebook page? I love her inspirational videos. She is such a blessing to the ummah! Wish we had a role model like this when we were little.
I found her library on her facebook account. Yaayyy alhamdulillah
Unconditional RESPECT!
Salam alaykum! Thank you for doing this!